C Extra Trading Co.,Ltd.Dear Ellie: I’m a 52-year-old single mom who met a man online. We talked for several months, met twice. On the third date we had sex.
I thought things were progressing. But whenever I asked for a visit or invited him to my place, he declined.
You’re asking for “more” of what so far is a friendship that allows for occasional sex when he’s comfortable with the time and place. It’s not quite control, though close, but more about his not being ready for more. He’s not widening your contact together.
Some people – men and women alike – can handle an FWB relationship because 1) it’s all they want; or 2) it avoids deep intimacy which they don’t want and 3) it avoids any public show of being a “couple.”
Instead, he messaged that he didn’t think a relationship would happen, but we could stay friends
This time, if you use a dating app or some other online way of meeting, show confidence in yourself. If you know after a short conversation that someone’s not very interesting, just find a reason to end the conversation. Don’t hang on.
This is my first friends-with-benefits (FWB) relationship
Dear Ellie: With our kids home all day during school closures, our teenagers are struggling most with having lost independence.
We have a say in whether they can go out and where, and what they can do – which mostly only allows for walking outside masked and distanced, or sitting apart outside till they’re too cold. Sometimes there are big arguments and tensions.
Recently, I reached into my daughter’s backpack to get a book she borrowed and found a pack of cigarettes and an e-cigarette.
When confronted, she said it was her friend’s cigarettes, not hers. How do I know if she’s telling me the truth, or lying?
She was cornered, either protecting her friend or herself. Even if you’d discovered that she lied, first get her on board with life’s realities.
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